These views are expressed by our healer Ashwita

I observe two types of relationships in the world: Power-based and Love-based. They are usually mutually exclusive, although one might learn to shift from one to another. I’m talking about all types of relationships, not just romantic ones, but friendships, parental bonds, sibling dynamics, professional interactions—everything.

Power-Based Relationships

Power-based relationships are the popular choice. Most of what is thought of as love is not love at all, but a power struggle. We think we love, but in reality, we seek dominance and control. Such relationships often involve subtle or overt bullying. There may be anger outbursts or tantrums, emotional blackmail, passive-aggressive comments, or even complete avoidance of conflict—sweeping everything under the rug to maintain a fragile peace. The underlying aim is to ‘make’ the other do what we want, whether through intimidation, guilt, or manipulation.

Unfortunately, many people don’t realize they are in power-based relationships. They assume love means sacrifice, submission, or constantly fighting to be heard. In romantic relationships, this can manifest as one partner making all the decisions while the other is expected to comply. In friendships, it can look like one friend always setting the terms while the other follows along, fearful of upsetting the balance. In families, parents might exert control over their children’s choices under the guise of love, believing they know best, while children, in turn, might manipulate their parents with guilt or rebellion.

Love-Based Relationships

Love-based relationships, on the other hand, are much rarer because they require trust and genuine connection. The foundation is respect, even in the face of anger, frustration, or insecurity. People in such relationships talk about their problems openly because they know they will be heard and respected. The goal is not to win but to resolve conflicts by finding a middle ground. Love-based relationships prioritize freedom and individual choice, trusting that both parties are committed to the relationship without the need for coercion or control.

These relationships are about two responsible, self-aware individuals walking together rather than one dragging the other along. They are built on mutual support rather than expectations and demands. Such relationships foster personal growth, as both individuals are free to be themselves without fear of judgment or control.

The Clash Between Power and Love

The most disturbing situations arise when these two dynamics collide—when someone who seeks control and dominance interacts with someone who believes in freedom and responsibility. In such cases, the relationship can quickly become abusive, with the love-based individual being manipulated, gaslit, or taken advantage of. If they remain unaware of the imbalance, they may continue to tolerate unhealthy behavior, believing they need to be more understanding or giving.

This becomes even worse when the power-seeker presents a charming, people-pleasing facade to the outside world. They may appear kind, generous, and perfect to others while being controlling and emotionally draining behind closed doors—a Jekyll and Hyde personality. The love-based individual may struggle to explain their suffering because others only see the manipulator’s mask of perfection.

Choosing Love Over Power

Recognizing these patterns is the first step to shifting towards love-based relationships. It requires self-reflection: Are we seeking to control, or are we truly supporting our loved ones? Do we express our needs openly, or do we resort to manipulation? Are we choosing partners, friends, or colleagues who respect us, or are we drawn into toxic dynamics?

Breaking free from power-based relationships takes courage, especially if we have been conditioned to equate control with love. But in choosing love over power, we create relationships that nourish rather than deplete, that empower rather than suppress. And that is where true connection—and true love—begins.

Recently we played a Snakes and Ladder Game based on Redikall Healing. Topic was 'Karmic Healing of Ancestors" It was a group session where we had a snakes and ladders board game divided into 7 parts where each part represented 1 chakra from root to crown. The aim of the game is to start at the root chakra and go up to the crown chakra and finally to redikall consciousness.

With every roll of the dice, the pawn is moved step by step, and at every stop the participants are given R5 statements as they are things to be resolved, every snake represents the brilliance in that situation and every snake the blockages.

After the session, one of the participant Apurba wrote this beautiful poem which captures the essence of the session amazingly well.

"Soul's journey through Redikall Game 🌸

The intent is so important 

What we intent is what we get

Today played an amazing Redikall game 

Redikall version of snake n ladder 

Played a game of Life for ancestral karma healing 

The board was divided into 7 major chakras n colours🌸

Eshanye and Deepti and many Redikall healing practitioners joined in

This group session was amazing

We learn to R5 many of our hurdles 

We learnt the importance of affirmations

We learnt not to give up n keep on moving forward 🌸

Everytime we climbed a ladder, the group cheered

And everytime we stepped on the snake, there was a sigh

But someone was always there to pull us up, it's okay.

 Let's learn the lesson intended here. 

And continue with the journey ahead 🌸

The game was true to its name, we repeated many cycles of going up n down

Somewhere the universe was telling us, we still need to heal something or someone 

Unburden some baggage that we were carrying of ours or our ancestors.  

And as we learnt to R5 with more determination

And we were more keen to learn the brilliance 

The path up to Redikall Consciousness became so easy.

When we say life is easy. Life is effortless . Life is lot of fun.

This game truly showed us that when we surrendered with all our hearts n minds 

Then the rise to the top was evident .🌸

We have to trust the universe ,universe has our back

We just have to flow with the flow of life🤗

We finally recited n affirmed , I creatively find my way to the solution and the destination .

We have to recite 1 n a half moons nearly 42 days with dedication.

This game showed us what amazing things are possible when we have collective consciousness of all in one place together 🌸

We were taught about soul's journey n what universe wants us to hear here .

The life plan is pre destined by the soul

When we are aligned with our higher consciousness 

The magic starts happening .🌸

By the end of the game it was so comforting to know 

That all goes smoothly ,when we go with the flow .

Happy to know that in this auspicious time period

We played our important part in healing ourselves n our ancestors

Thank you Redikall mentors for today's life lessons  🌸😊🌈

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